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#1 Iszie

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Posted 26 October 2021 - 05:57 AM

This will have to be brief, as I have to go.
 

I have mock exams next week. I have to revise each day this week (the school said this), although it’s meant to be a holiday. Really struggling. I feel like I should spend my holiday resting and being happy. 
 

I cannot motivate myself to do revision. I just can’t get myself to take the paper and do it. Believe me when I say I try so hard, but it just doesn’t work. I can’t understand why. Then I get annoyed at myself, and my mum gets annoyed at me too.

 

It’s so tiring to have to go through this each day. 
 

Any advice?

 

PS: I know this is a hamster forum, please forgive me for posting this, but I don’t have anyone else to talk to at the moment. 


Edited by Iszie, 26 October 2021 - 06:00 AM.





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Posted 26 October 2021 - 06:59 AM

Aw, I’m so sry. Yes, I agree that you should just spend your holiday relaxing :) 

If you ever get stressed at school, one thing I find helpful is fidgets :)

 

Hope this helps!



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Posted 26 October 2021 - 07:27 AM

This will have to be brief, as I have to go.
 

I have mock exams next week. I have to revise each day this week (the school said this), although it’s meant to be a holiday. Really struggling. I feel like I should spend my holiday resting and being happy. 
 

I cannot motivate myself to do revision. I just can’t get myself to take the paper and do it. Believe me when I say I try so hard, but it just doesn’t work. I can’t understand why. Then I get annoyed at myself, and my mum gets annoyed at me too.

 

It’s so tiring to have to go through this each day. 
 

Any advice?

 

PS: I know this is a hamster forum, please forgive me for posting this, but I don’t have anyone else to talk to at the moment. 

 

Make a schedule of something like 1 hour per day, or 30 minutes in the morning, 30 min in the afternoon. You can aim for 1 subject per day, do 30 min of revision and 30 min of past papers. If you need maths or physics I'm honestly happy to help with 1-to-1 sessions :) *I'm fully DBS checked, can give my certificate etc! I have a whole bunch of students online :) If you honestly want help with science or maths you can PM me and if you need we can talk with your mum and sort out some sessions :) Sometimes having an external person providing the "pressure" to learn can give you focus :)


Edited by IsAnyoneThere, 26 October 2021 - 07:28 AM.

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#4 Hammyboi34

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Posted 26 October 2021 - 03:09 PM

Before i also had the same problem but since i got my hamsters they motivate me to try more since my parents refuse to give my hamsters proper care and I don't have an allowance so I need to get decent grades for hamster supplies

 

I hope you find your motivation :)


Edited by Hammyboi34, 26 October 2021 - 03:09 PM.


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Posted 26 October 2021 - 10:37 PM

I fully sympathise with your situation. I have been there and it's not easy. Here are some tips that have helped me:

 

1. Be compassionate to yourself.

 

When you have low motivation, it's important to be kind and compassionate to yourself, and ease yourself gently into getting back to work. Like IAT said, an hour a day is a good goal. You may have days where you can manage this, and you may have days where you can't. Don't beat yourself up about it. By overly criticising yourself, you enter a cycle of guilt that will only demoralise you and make it harder to find motivation. If you end up getting annoyed at yourself and berating yourself internally, try and find another, more compassionate voice to challenge those thoughts.

 

Let's say you get 15 minutes of work done. Instead of thinking, "I only did 15 minutes, that's not enough, why am I so useless?", tell yourself, "that's awesome, Iszie, you're doing amazing, keep it up!" Talk to yourself like you would a close friend. It might feel silly, especially if you're used to being hard on yourself, but it will help you enter a better place mentally, and be in a better state to work effectively.

 

I've found it helps to consider a "zero work base level" when you're struggling to get any work done. Instead of telling yourself you need to do so many hours of work in a day, set the expectation of doing no work, and any amount of work you do "above" this level is something good you have achieved.

 

2. Work because you choose to.

 

Don't let your school stress you out unnecessarily. You do not have to work every day this week. In fact, it might help for you to take a day or two of complete break, where you don't think about work at all. It sounds like you are feeling burnt out and could do with time away from schoolwork to let go of the things stressing you out, and return to it with a clearer head and more energy. Also, try to rethink why you are revising. Rather than seeing it as something your school is making you do, think of it as a choice. You are choosing to revise because you want to learn, develop your understanding of a topic, improve your grades, etc.

 

3. Set clear work boundaries.

 

Make sure you set aside time for work, and time for rest. During work time, you are focusing as much of your attention on revision as you can. During rest time, you aren't thinking about work at all. Try to avoid "grey time" where you are sort of working and sort of not. This will leave you feeling drained and dissatisfied, and eats away at time where you could be properly relaxing or having fun. Something that helps me is having different places for work and relaxation. E.g. you could work in a library, or in the kitchen, and relax in your bedroom.

 

4. Overcome the hurdle of starting work.

 

Starting is possibly the hardest part, especially when you have no motivation. You really just gotta think "screw it" and get on with it. The more you're able to do that, the easier it will get. It helps to find a good work space and eliminate distractions (e.g. by turning off your phone). If you find it easier to work with another person to hold you accountable, see if you can meet up with a friend, or play one of those "study with me" youtube videos in the background. Something that might help you to overcome the hurdle of starting work is to tell yourself "I will only work for 2 minutes". This makes it less intimidating to start. Once you've done 2 minutes of work, you might have got into the swing of it and find it easy to continue. If not, allow yourself a break for 10 minutes, go for a walk, have a snack, then try again for another 2 minutes.

 

 

This turned into an essay, oh dear xD I hope you find something in this that's useful. Take good care of yourself - eat well, sleep well, do some exercise, and make sure you take some time to enjoy yourself and have fun this half term. Wishing you all the best!


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#6 Iszie

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Posted 27 October 2021 - 06:15 AM

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Thank you so much everyone for taking time to reply! They were all very helpful. :)

 

I've managed to focus consistently for 5 minutes. As a whole, I managed to complete double the amount I did yesterday! For now I'll continue pushing myself to get started, and hopefully after that, the time I can consistently focus for will increase.


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Posted 27 October 2021 - 06:34 AM

Thank you so much everyone for taking time to reply! They were all very helpful. :)

 

I've managed to focus consistently for 5 minutes. As a whole, I managed to complete double the amount I did yesterday! For now I'll continue pushing myself to get started, and hopefully after that, the time I can consistently focus for will increase.

You’re welcome! And yay that’s great! Good luck!


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