Hi
So a close friend of mine just blocked me
I totally understand if no-one wants to read this but I really had to get this out.
Backstory:
“A” and I been friends for about 8 months, and we’ve gotten very close!
We have the same sense of humor, we spend all our free time together - at school, we used to text all the time, and were overall really close.
Here’s the thing though, A would constantly make these plans about hanging out after school, on the weekends etc, but never went through with them. She made these promises but couldn’t even make the first move into putting them into action. I tried many times but was flat out ignored.
I still enjoyed her company very much so I said fine and continued like nothing happened.
Finally, I pushed through and got some things done, and invited A over, and looking back, it might have been difficult for her to say no, so she agreed to meet and my house.
We had a great time, but ever since then, there has been no indication that she’d ever want to do this again.
We seem so close at school but as soon as we leave, no texts, no calls and no meeting… nothing.
I wanted to talk to her about it but it was difficult because over the last month, this has been happening:
She has this friend, let’s call her “E”. E is nice, but we’ve never been friends outside of this mutual friendship. E was having some trouble with her own friend group so A invited E to join us for lunch and stuff. It was fine in the beginning, but then it became every lunch, ever bit of free time, it was the three of us, and things started to get boring.
I thought I was the only one feeling bored, or missing how things used to be, when I got a text from A saying “Is it just me or do you miss how things were before E”. I said yes, and we talked about how even though E is lovely, we really enjoyed spending time together just the 2 of us. We got time just the 2 of us for a few weeks, but it went back to A, E and me after some time.
We had some school trips recently, and A and me sat next to each other on the bus for 2/3 trips, because we were on the same bus. We had a great time, and nothing seemed off, even though at this point she was texting me like once a week, and having no interest in keeping in touch outside of School.
On that 3rd bus trip, E was on our bus as well. A said “If it’s ok with you, I’ll sit with E because she hasn’t been able to sit next to a friend for 2/3 trips”. I of course said yes, because saying no would seem weird and possessive.. so they did. And during that trip, they barely spoke to me, particularly A, had been giving me the cold shoulder. E was still pretty nice to me btw.
At this point, I realised that A likes E more than she likes me. And as much as it stung, I knew I’d have to live with that… I mean, we had been friends for longer, spent more time together, but A&E hangout outside of school sometimes, they text all the time all the things that A stopped with me, she’s continued with E, she loves having E with us during lunch etc.
And then, 3 days after the trip, I wanted to say Hi and tell A to have a good Easter break, and… I was blocked.
I texted E and I hadn’t been blocked by her but no reply
I can’t ask her what happened just yet because I’m on a week holiday but I do intend to confront her.. any advice?
Thanks!
