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[♥~kitkat7♥]

I would appreciate it if you guys read this and maybe left a reply?

Idk, but thanks in advance <33

please don't quote

 

 

 

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Where do I even start... let's talk about my friend group. It isn't even a friend group tbh. Everyone talks complete <oh no> about each other, behind their backs and are so nice to people even when they hate them. Everyone is sinking in each other's drama, and it's pretty unhealthy ngl, I am not in a place to take other people's weight on my back. My best friend is very pretty, kind, nice, and funny - and it sucks being friends with someone everyone likes when a lot of people don't like you. It honestly sucks to see the people I don't like hanging with my friends. And I feel like my friends don't care or anything and honestly: the people I am supposed to be letting my stress out to are stressing me out. My best friends boyfriends friend (whom I have known ever since last year and is also good friends with a guy I will talk about in a moment) literally emailed me yesterday and long story short said "we can't be friends anymore" and it took me an hour to get her to tell me why she didn't and she basically said: "I don't really like you and we aren't close and you follow me around.". This girl - had the nerve to tell ME she didn't like me!! It wasn't even her unfriending me, (she complicates my life), it was her saying that I follow her around like a puppy and that she doesn't like me. Like - seriously?! She also has embarrassing photos of like everyone in the school (which doesn't feel good). Then there is the guy. *sighs*, well a while ago he asked me out and I said no...(I was interested in only friendship) and a few weeks ago we started talking again. And my friends send me screenshots of messages of him saying that he likes me, etc. Yes, he still likes me btw. I feel sorta bad, bc Ik he probably wouldn't want his messages being leaked to his crush. I sometimes wish I didn't know all of this and just thought we were friends. It would probably be best if I didn't know anything. I am afraid he will ask me out again, and uh..I am a lesbian - so it's a tough situation. My friends are telling me I like him, I am bi, I am straight - you aren't a lesbian, date him....But like, they are making me feel like I don't have a choice. I have to date him. Bc if I say no, I will upset him and they care about him and his mental state and not even about my sexuality! It's my choice! I have tried to make it clear to them to leave the situation alone, don't hint at anything - and I hope they listen, because they are going to be pretty upset if he asks me out and I have to tell him the truth. I am just upset everyone is telling me who I can't like, who I should like, what's hot, what's not, what's cool, what's stupid. Schoolwork is stupid, vapes are cool. I can't be lesbian, I have to date my good friend. I feel pressured and maybe like sometime I will let them down and I am afraid of going back to a lonely state. I mean, I am still lonely and have no safe space, besides my counselor. I can't be me and all complements mean nothing and it's the same stuff. It just feels pretty toxic ig. Yesterday as I was walking to go eat lunch with him, I think I was having a panic attack and it felt like I swallowed a knife. My friends are like: "It is not a big deal, c'mon go hug him!!" My appetite has been very decreased. Ever since the last few weeks, I am not having breakfast and lunch and now, I don't even feel like dinner. I have very small snacks throughout the day. I am probably losing weight. I won't/can't eat at school, food makes me sick/nauseous, even 2 pieces of candy will give me a terrible headache. I can't sleep, I have too much on my mind and I always feel sick - stomachache, nausea, headache. School has been hard to keep up with but I am managing ig. My school isn't healthy for me. My mental state is kinda weird, I am getting periods of confusion, like I forget to put my instrument away at school and I already reached class and I need to back now - or I forget where I am going and what class I need to go to. I am randomly crashing into door frames, and tripping, and I am always groggy. These mood swings are terrible - one moment I am smiling/laughing, next I am crying my eyes out. My life has lots of stuff going on and this feels like the only place I can let it out. So. That sums it up. Thanks for any replies <33

[Kikya]

That's a lot to take in, but I would say first before anything else. Start with self care. Get plenty of rest, make sure you get enough to eat, limit the junk foods if you can because they do have an impact on your mental health. Do a spa day! Take a deep breath, let it slow. Try to calm your mind.

 

You don't need to bother with any relationships right now, you're a child (not saying this in an insulting way) but there are way more important things coming up in your life than a boy with a crush. Like how are your grades? Do you have a goal to work toward? Is it college or something else, like a trade? You can get way ahead of your peers by just not letting the drama get in the way of what you really want. And you are the only one who can figure that out. How do you imagine yourself as an adult? What kind of person do you want to be? Try to figure out some things that can move you in that direction. Doesn't have to be big lofty goals, baby steps. Like if you want to be a vet, look up what it takes to be one and figure out what in the future you will need to do. Even if you aren't that path now, you have plenty of time to be. You don't even need to figure out a job, you could set your goals to be something like, walk a mile everyday. If you want to be an active adult, start with goals like that. If you want to be an adult who knows a lot about a certain subject, go read about it.

 

Also, life is too short to hang out with people you don't like. Find time to hang out with the people you do like, invite your friend over to do something fun or go to the movies.

 

I'm sorry for this confusing time in your life but I promise you, it will be get better and things that matter greatly today won't matter at all in a few months. You can do anything that you set your mind to do. I believe in you.

 

HUGS

 

Kikya

Edited by Kikya, 16 February 2022 - 01:52 AM.

[Hamustars]

I read that all. Mostly because it sorta my life as well at the moment. 

 

Ok, so. About the whole, "Go out with this dude bc he likes you." Other people do not get to decided who you go out with! Especially since you are bi! Date people you want to date, if everyone just dated and married someone because the other person liked them, no one would be happy and more divorces would happen. You should like, who YOU like. Not who other people think you should like. Also, I don't think your friends are a good group to be around (Sorry if that was really mean I don't old back > - <). If they are talking behind backs and doing all the stuff you are saying you need to tell them to stop and that you don't want to be friends with rude people (You could also pray for them but I'm unsure of your beliefs, I'll pray for them if you'd like).  Also, I'm sorry but you need to eat, the less you eat the less sugar you have in your blood and the worse you will feel. If you eat and work-out and do something you want, like going out with your sisters (If you have any), having a spa day, chilling out on the couch, treating yourself to a restaurant. Surround yourself with happy things. And most importantly, like Kikya said, focus on your grades, think about the future. Spend more time with your hammy! I know that Boone always makes me feel happier. If you want to talk more, feel free to PM me!!

 

Ima leave you with one of my FAVORITE quotes, 

 

"Promise me you'll always remember that you braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think." 

Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh

 

Xoxo

Hamustars
 

 

 

 

 

"Promise me you'll always remember that you are braver than you believe,stronger than you seem and smarter than you think". - Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh.

[♥~kitkat7♥]

 

I read that all. Mostly because it sorta my life as well at the moment. 

 

Ok, so. About the whole, "Go out with this dude bc he likes you." Other people do not get to decided who you go out with! Especially since you are bi! Date people you want to date, if everyone just dated and married someone because the other person liked them, no one would be happy and more divorces would happen. You should like, who YOU like. Not who other people think you should like. Also, I don't think your friends are a good group to be around (Sorry if that was really mean I don't old back > - <). If they are talking behind backs and doing all the stuff you are saying you need to tell them to stop and that you don't want to be friends with rude people (You could also pray for them but I'm unsure of your beliefs, I'll pray for them if you'd like).  Also, I'm sorry but you need to eat, the less you eat the less sugar you have in your blood and the worse you will feel. If you eat and work-out and do something you want, like going out with your sisters (If you have any), having a spa day, chilling out on the couch, treating yourself to a restaurant. Surround yourself with happy things. And most importantly, like Kikya said, focus on your grades, think about the future. Spend more time with your hammy! I know that Boone always makes me feel happier. If you want to talk more, feel free to PM me!!

 

Ima leave you with one of my FAVORITE quotes, 

 

"Promise me you'll always remember that you braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think." 

Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh

 

Xoxo

Hamustars
 

 

 

 

 

"Promise me you'll always remember that you are braver than you believe,stronger than you seem and smarter than you think". - Christopher Robin to Winnie the Pooh.

 

 

 

That's a lot to take in, but I would say first before anything else. Start with self care. Get plenty of rest, make sure you get enough to eat, limit the junk foods if you can because they do have an impact on your mental health. Do a spa day! Take a deep breath, let it slow. Try to calm your mind.

 

You don't need to bother with any relationships right now, you're a child (not saying this in an insulting way) but there are way more important things coming up in your life than a boy with a crush. Like how are your grades? Do you have a goal to work toward? Is it college or something else, like a trade? You can get way ahead of your peers by just not letting the drama get in the way of what you really want. And you are the only one who can figure that out. How do you imagine yourself as an adult? What kind of person do you want to be? Try to figure out some things that can move you in that direction. Doesn't have to be big lofty goals, baby steps. Like if you want to be a vet, look up what it takes to be one and figure out what in the future you will need to do. Even if you aren't that path now, you have plenty of time to be. You don't even need to figure out a job, you could set your goals to be something like, walk a mile everyday. If you want to be an active adult, start with goals like that. If you want to be an adult who knows a lot about a certain subject, go read about it.

 

Also, life is too short to hang out with people you don't like. Find time to hang out with the people you do like, invite your friend over to do something fun or go to the movies.

 

I'm sorry for this confusing time in your life but I promise you, it will be get better and things that matter greatly today won't matter at all in a few months. You can do anything that you set your mind to do. I believe in you.

 

HUGS

 

Kikya

 

 

Thank you guys both to the replies <33

All day I think about just a nice relaxing day, so after school - I am going to watch my favorite show, and get a nice snack (*cough* valentines chocolates *cough*) and just decompress. 

 

ty again <333

[Hamustars]

Great! Haha, don't worry, I LOVE VALENTINES CHOCOLATE! Even though I don't have a partner! That sounds perfect, I wish I had time to do that!!

[♥~kitkat7♥]

Great! Haha, don't worry, I LOVE VALENTINES CHOCOLATE! Even though I don't have a partner! That sounds perfect, I wish I had time to do that!!

Sameeeeee

i got a big box of it, i wish i could share some with u waaah   

 

here: *hands piece of chocolate* 

[Hamustars]

Haha! 

 

THANK YOU 

 

*grabs the chocolate and throws my dinner away* *stufs it in meh mouth* DELICIOUS 

[♥~kitkat7♥]

Haha! 

 

THANK YOU 

 

*grabs the chocolate and throws my dinner away* *stufs it in meh mouth* DELICIOUS 

IKRRRR SO GOOOOD

that spaghetti couldnt compare >

 

this is so off topic lol

Edited by ♥~kitkat7♥, 16 February 2022 - 07:58 AM.

[Hamustars]

IKRRRR SO GOOOOD

that spaghetti couldnt compare >

 

this is so off topic lol

 

YUM YUM YUM IN MEH TUM TUM TUM!!!!

 

*gasp!* How did you know what I was eating?! LOL! 

 

HAHA! It totally isn't lol! 

[Lillias]

Keep in mind this is temporary. You won't always be at this school. You'll meet new people in the future. Eventually, you'll find people you actually like.

 

You are never obligated to date someone. No one dates everyone who has a crush on them. If he asks, tell him you aren't interested in a romantic relationship with him. You don't need to give details to him or anyone else. And really what kind of future does a relationship started because of peer pressure have?

 

The forgetfulness and grogginess are most likely caused by your not eating during the day. Low blood sugar can make you pass out, and nutrient deficiencies can cause all sorts of symptoms. You need to work out something you can eat during the day (that isn't straight sugar), maybe a food bar if a meal is too much. The less you eat the less you feel like eating because your metabolism goes into famine mode. You are young, so it's very important that you get all the necessary nutrients and calories (much like young hamsters!).

[♥~kitkat7♥]

Keep in mind this is temporary. You won't always be at this school. You'll meet new people in the future. Eventually, you'll find people you actually like.

 

You are never obligated to date someone. No one dates everyone who has a crush on them. If he asks, tell him you aren't interested in a romantic relationship with him. You don't need to give details to him or anyone else. And really what kind of future does a relationship started because of peer pressure have?

 

The forgetfulness and grogginess are most likely caused by your not eating during the day. Low blood sugar can make you pass out, and nutrient deficiencies can cause all sorts of symptoms. You need to work out something you can eat during the day (that isn't straight sugar), maybe a food bar if a meal is too much. The less you eat the less you feel like eating because your metabolism goes into famine mode. You are young, so it's very important that you get all the necessary nutrients and calories (much like young hamsters!).

Thank you for the reply <33