33 replies to this topic

[pinefresh730]

Very well written!

[bleu_emeraude]

Excellent post indeed!
Hopefully the negativity in HH can be reduced, and HH can be a very happy place

[princesshamster]

This is amazing! Not only for HH but for LIFE! Totally should be pinned

[Creative Hamster]

Nothing has to be changed because...your guide is pure AWESOME! It helped me a lot with my typing skills, thanks again!

[missPixy]

This is amazing, Ashley extremely well written, concise and well laid out.

Here's another tip to make what you type come across less aggressive: just use emotes! -->
When talking to someone in person it's very easy to gauge facial expressions and body language and from this work out the whole "mood" of the conversation. It's something that happens a lot in the back ground, even without you thinking about it, and is all part and parcel of effective communication.
When talking to someone on the internet it is oftentimes quite hard to put something across in the mood you intended, as gauging facial expression and body language is impossible in what is largely a text-based environment. The odd smiley face thrown in really helps to soften the blow of any criticism, and puts across a good mood which is less likely to be interpreted as aggressive.
Always remember that behind every post here there is another human being. This place is more than a sea of words, it is, it should be, a fun, friendly and happy community of people

I just now stumbled across this VERY excellent topic! and all I was
going to add was Azayles comment about the emoticons~~ when
critiquing or discussing anything touchy, use emoticons... many and
often. they somewhat bridge the gap between the one-dimensional
written word and the missing element of body language, tone of
voice, etc... which makes all the difference in conversation!

[Neon<3Hamster]

thx this really helped

[Illa]

So smart!

I will try the sandwich idea!

+It is a kind and nice sandwich that everyone can enjoy eating

[Biscotti]

This is such an excellent post, I wish more forums are able to see this. I've seen quite a few other forums where there are so much good intentions behind good suggestions, but are unfortunately lost when people take offense. Thank you for posting this for all to see.

[TakingLittleSteps]

great thread!

[Creative Hamster]

^It is, isn't it?

 

When I found this thread in 2011, I wondered how much of a difference it would make to keep some positivity in critic posts. I realize it helped a lot and I found I got more people understood the message in my posts  I truly wish everyone follows this post format, especially when people bash the 'minimum cage size minimum' and 'mesh wheel' kind of topics. I found it important to be careful before posting and never, ever show negative feelings (ex. anger) in a post or else a member may become offended (by a post that meant no offence) and in the end the hamster suffers :( If I feel angry, I just leave the thread and let another member handle it.

Edited by Creative Hamster, 13 April 2014 - 04:09 AM.

[caitlin]

great post this is very helpfull thank you

[hinewhammy]

That was a great guide! Thank you so much for taking time to do this! I love the friendly environment in HH, but when things get out of hand, it's always good to remember what to do. I like how you posted from everyone opinion. Thank you for making HH an even better community of happy-hamster-lovers!     

[kyrie100]

Great post. The sandwich method works great for breaking up with people too...ermmm.

[jerrythehamster]

ty <3

[TheCreativeHam]

Thanks, I will definitely keep this in mind when I'm giving and receiving advice !