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Posted 18 May 2022 - 10:24 PM

Hi :)

 

So, I'm pretty sure HH had another post like this, but it hasn't been active since October of 2021 and I am bored rn, so why not? (Unless this is against HH rules).

 

This thread is a place to post your stress  :worried:, body struggles  :hissyfit:, period cramps  :crybuckets:, weird questions  :sarcastic:, outfit mishaps  :scared:, embarrassing stories  :embarassed:, friend issues  :thumbsdown:,  school stuff  :crowded:, math questions  :huh:, verbal + anything else abuse at school  :pullinghair:, being so tired you can't do anything  :tired:, being lazy and sad because nobody understands  :zzz:, seeing the real good in people and the world  :gardener:, those times you look at yourself and you are just like "I HATE BECOMING A TEENAGER  :yuck:" and anything else that applies to the middle school and high school life, that I guess is "teenagerish or pre-teenish". So yeah, girl support group? I don't wanna sound exclusive, but uh...girl support group  :grouphug:???

 

And there are also upsides to becoming a teen, a grown person. You dress the way you like. Try makeup for the first time. Use a flattening iron. Turn 13  :party:! We develop music and art taste  :headphones:, and what we wanna do when we grow up. That feeling (hahaha) when you pay for a smoothie or some clothes by yourself. When you have a first real love  :lovestruck:, or when you have a cry and it feels real  :gloomy:. You love an animal for the first time and take care of it without help  :squirrel:. Discover the beauty of the world and meet people  :earth:! Learn about how babies are made in your 7th grade health class  :stork-boy:  :stork-girl:. Pronouns! Gender! Sexuality  :tropicalfish:! All something new and exciting. Begging to go to the mall with a new friend  :begging:. Feeling cool/confident in an outfit  :cool:. Drooling over someone on TV  :drool:. You can be yourself!!!

 

I know that school is really stressful and another lonely, chaotic place for some of us, so that's why we need places like this. A lot of people feel really awkward talking about their unanswered questions or just "hey, uh, is this normal?". Nobody prepares us for the reality of being a teenager and being in middle or high school. For those of you guys who have experienced this, or not yet - sadly, middle school is not at all like Disney Channel  :no:. Our body parts, the things everybody has - are shamed. We are told to cover up and not be a "distraction" (freaking garbage). Just saying "butt" or "boobs" or even - "tampon!" will have people like  :gasp:  :yell:. It's crazy. And for girls and guys - there is sexism lurking everywhere. It sucks. All the guys in the class looking at you and say "Oh haha, you are to young to know!", when both you and they know darn well that's not true and it's because you are simply the opposite sex then them. Kids are getting this stupidness put into their brains, such as: pink is for girls and blue is for guys or 2 girls or guys getting married is "gay marriage". It's honestly sad to see the way women and Lgbtqia+ people are STILL being treated today, yes we have come a long way thanks to many brave men and women, but we have a long way to go, till equality comes. Developing opinions is important and not letting people rule your life also, and its hard to say no sometimes. We feel overpowered. I am no stranger to "it gets better". Sometimes (I don't mean to be scary), it doesn't. But you have the power to make a change. People will lie to you sometimes, ig. Lying is a second nature to some people. And it sucks when we become the people our parents tell us to stay away from. But don't fall to a dark side of yourself. Stay true to yourself, and what you wanna be. Also, those people who believe mental health is just another trick to gain attention and everything is "psychobabble"  :duh:. Don't listen to them. Listen to yourself. Mental health IS REAL, REAL AF. I guess what I'm trying to say is life sucks and is tough. Jk, jk, it is tough and sometimes SUCKS  :faint:and there is too much you have to know  :reading: and it gets overwhelming and people will get in the way. People will sometimes suck and animals will be better sometimes! But you will find those people. IRL on online, like HHF. Nothing stays the same, remember that. Just like "all good things can't last forever", same for bad things. You have the power to make it better. Channel that to something meaningful, something that is good  :goodvibes:  :hug:

 

Thanks for listening to my Ted Talk  :sly:

So just feel free to post anything.

No judgement. You can say anything you want

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We all go through this! It's normal! There shouldn't be stigma around these topics. Lets take down this harsh, awful wall of shame  :computer:, and build a safe, accepting community.

 

So yup, this is a safe space for "girly" topics. Anything.

Talk space  :chat:

Question space  :huh:

Wierd + embarrrasing place  :embarassed:  :drunk:

Anything place  :veryhappy:  :rainbow:

 

Much love, y'all <3

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Posted 18 May 2022 - 10:47 PM

Oh, this is totally my kinda thread. So, I got my first period a couple weeks ago, and I didn't know what it was. So I um, put my clothes in the wash and asked my mom if the load was to big and she called me into the laundry room and told me it was my period. I whooped and got all excited because all my life I've wanted to have kids and if you want something that badly, you start to worry that you can't have it. So for me my period was kinda, telling me I could have kids. Then the next day I was talkin' with my mom and just suddenly started crying. Like even I didn't know what was happening. The next night I got the WORSE cramps ever! I thought OI was going to die (But also, kinda hopeful, but that a subject for another time). But I didn't die soooo (HAHA, GET BEHIND ME SATAN!). Right, um, BYE!



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Posted 18 May 2022 - 10:52 PM

Oh, this is totally my kinda thread. So, I got my first period a couple weeks ago, and I didn't know what it was. So I um, put my clothes in the wash and asked my mom if the load was to big and she called me into the laundry room and told me it was my period. I whooped and got all excited because all my life I've wanted to have kids and if you want something that badly, you start to worry that you can't have it. So for me my period was kinda, telling me I could have kids. Then the next day I was talkin' with my mom and just suddenly started crying. Like even I didn't know what was happening. The next night I got the WORSE cramps ever! I thought OI was going to die (But also, kinda hopeful, but that a subject for another time). But I didn't die soooo (HAHA, GET BEHIND ME SATAN!). Right, um, BYE!

That literally sounds like a roller coaster! Also pretty scary bc like u thought u were gonna die!

Yeah, I would definitely be excited, bc it's like "I'm almost grown up now!!!"

 

Hopefully things continue steady <3



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Posted 18 May 2022 - 10:58 PM

That literally sounds like a roller coaster! Also pretty scary bc like u thought u were gonna die!

Yeah, I would definitely be excited, bc it's like "I'm almost grown up now!!!"

 

Hopefully things continue steady <3

I am literally CROSSING MY FINGERS!!!

Also, I'm to some extent, a sadist and a masochist (sadist: someone who enjoys afflicting pain.) (masochist: someone who enjoys pain) so the pain of my period is something I almost enjoy...



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Posted 18 May 2022 - 11:02 PM

I am literally CROSSING MY FINGERS!!!

Also, I'm to some extent, a sadist and a masochist (sadist: someone who enjoys afflicting pain.) (masochist: someone who enjoys pain) so the pain of my period is something I almost enjoy...

I get what you are talking about, ig that makes the ride easier!



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Posted 18 May 2022 - 11:08 PM

I get what you are talking about, ig that makes the ride easier!

YEP!

To explain, I still feel the pain, like it still hurts, but the feeling of everyone being worried about me is nice, also, like with bruises and such, I'll repeatedly touch it so that it hurts, it's really hard to explain and I don't really get it either!



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Posted 18 May 2022 - 11:41 PM

              I have this book called The Thoughtful Girls Guide by Mary Sheehan Warren, and one thing it talked about is how other people see you, and I never thought about that.

             It talked about how you are a gift from God, and because of that, depending on how you "wrap yourself" people will see you differently.

             And because I am an ISTJ, I am the personality that most serious about rules. And I am getting to my point now. 

             If my gift wrapping paper is 4 layers (which is the same for every one), (fancy bow, wrapping paper, box, then the actual precious gift inside), then the big fancy bow that people see on me is too much of a rule follower, and a little bossy. Believe me, I am not bossy like you would imagine. 

 

           And so I start opening up to someone in a good conversation, and they get through my "big fancy bow", but don't want to go through anything else.

 

          And this is my problem. I have had trouble making friends, because they don't understand what the actual Gift is. Most people stereotype ISTJ's as people who are, I don't know, robotic and core too much for rules.

 

         And here is the catch now. Someone other than my family who has know me since I was born, would think, "She is just a stick-in-the-mud, she doesn't want to break a rule or two." When in real life, the whole reason that I make sure safety is to a T, is because, I REALLY care for others.

 

       In conclusion, peoples first glance at me is often "She is bossy, and cares to much for rules.". (And I am not bossy like a little kid, bossy like an over protective parent, if you know what I mean.) 

 

    But they never get to the real Gift inside, the person who cares for others in an unique way, making sure every one is safe.  And the whole reason they never get to the real, caring me, is because, it seems like every one I meet does not understand my thinking.

 

         The indent key wasn't working, so my indents were uneven.

 

 

         So now I am sure you are thinking, "How do people see me at first glance? Do they really want to know who I am?  

 

       Those are good questions! If you are thinking about the gift box thing, try and make sure that the "big fancy bow" is attractive, but doesn't give away to much, and the 'wrapping paper" is the next layer that gets people interested, in a good way. The "gift box" is more personal information, (unlike your name, which you often tell at the very beginning). And finally the real Gift, is the real you. And hopefully the person who has got this far, will remember and have you for ever.

 

      One more tip, don't make your wrapping and bow fancy, when the real gift, in my description of a person, does not care for people, and is rude to have people get through the fancy stuff, to find a person like this.

 

     And if you were wondering why I capitalized the g in gift, is because you are precious from God.

 

      Thank you if you got this far. It was pretty long, but I wanted to share my story, and share some advice for you guys.


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Posted 18 May 2022 - 11:55 PM

              I have this book called The Thoughtful Girls Guide by Mary Sheehan Warren, and one thing it talked about is how other people see you, and I never thought about that.

             It talked about how you are a gift from God, and because of that, depending on how you "wrap yourself" people will see you differently.

             And because I am an ISTJ, I am the personality that most serious about rules. And I am getting to my point now. 

             If my gift wrapping paper is 4 layers (which is the same for every one), (fancy bow, wrapping paper, box, then the actual precious gift inside), then the big fancy bow that people see on me is too much of a rule follower, and a little bossy. Believe me, I am not bossy like you would imagine. 

 

           And so I start opening up to someone in a good conversation, and they get through my "big fancy bow", but don't want to go through anything else.

 

          And this is my problem. I have had trouble making friends, because they don't understand what the actual Gift is. Most people stereotype ISTJ's as people who are, I don't know, robotic and core too much for rules.

 

         And here is the catch now. Someone other than my family who has know me since I was born, would think, "She is just a stick-in-the-mud, she doesn't want to break a rule or two." When in real life, the whole reason that I make sure safety is to a T, is because, I REALLY care for others.

 

       In conclusion, peoples first glance at me is often "She is bossy, and cares to much for rules.". (And I am not bossy like a little kid, bossy like an over protective parent, if you know what I mean.) 

 

    But they never get to the real Gift inside, the person who cares for others in an unique way, making sure every one is safe.  And the whole reason they never get to the real, caring me, is because, it seems like every one I meet does not understand my thinking.

 

         The indent key wasn't working, so my indents were uneven.

 

 

         So now I am sure you are thinking, "How do people see me at first glance? Do they really want to know who I am?  

 

       Those are good questions! If you are thinking about the gift box thing, try and make sure that the "big fancy bow" is attractive, but doesn't give away to much, and the 'wrapping paper" is the next layer that gets people interested, in a good way. The "gift box" is more personal information, (unlike your name, which you often tell at the very beginning). And finally the real Gift, is the real you. And hopefully the person who has got this far, will remember and have you for ever.

 

      One more tip, don't make your wrapping and bow fancy, when the real gift, in my description of a person, does not care for people, and is rude to have people get through the fancy stuff, to find a person like this.

 

     And if you were wondering why I capitalized the g in gift, is because you are precious from God.

 

      Thank you if you got this far. It was pretty long, but I wanted to share my story, and share some advice for you guys.

I have that book too! I'm not old enough to take that quiz yet but I will this summer, I'll tell y'all which one I get!



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Posted 19 May 2022 - 12:08 AM

I was walking around the gym the other day in P.E with my friend (female) (we are always together) and one of the boys looked at us in front of the whole class and said, "Are you two married? Because you are always together!" And this boy has been mean to me before and like, I go to a christian school and that is not supposed to be mentioned so like :worried:  And we we're both so like, WHAT?! And so I said, "No, I'm not lesbian." Like any reasonable person would say. And this boy just kept going! Mentioning things to my friend and the other kids, and the worse part, MY TEACHER DIDN'T SAY A WORD! Like, seriously this boy just said something very inappropriate and unkind to my friend and I and he just continues on like the boy asked if the world was round! LIKE WHAT THE ACTUAL HECK!! Uggg. and this isn't the first time this teacher has been mean to me :undecided: . Remember a while back when I broke my toe? Well, I was on crutches and I went up to the teacher (male btw) and said, "Oh hey, I'm not gonna be in P.E because I broke my toe, just wanted to let you know!" and he said, over and over "No you didn't!" or "your faking!" :pullinghair:  and I was talking to his mum and he was sitting there and she asked what was wrong and I said that I had broken my toe and this "man" said, "No she didn't she's just faking." DEAD SERIOUS. And I just stood there like, "WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO?! TAKE OFF MY CAST AND SHOW YOU? SPEND THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS TO GET AN X-RAY? WHAT THE ACTUAL-" :hissyfit: So I just ignored him, told my mom and went along. My friend and I still talk about it and we thinking about going to the principal but decided against it, this boy was just a jerk. And I had already been in trouble with the principal so we thought it better to keep it to ourselves.  But I still think about it and hope I had done more (Like slap coach with one of my crutches!).

Anyhoo, sorry for how long that was. :paperbag:



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Posted 19 May 2022 - 03:20 AM

YEP!

To explain, I still feel the pain, like it still hurts, but the feeling of everyone being worried about me is nice, also, like with bruises and such, I'll repeatedly touch it so that it hurts, it's really hard to explain and I don't really get it either!

 

 

              I have this book called The Thoughtful Girls Guide by Mary Sheehan Warren, and one thing it talked about is how other people see you, and I never thought about that.

             It talked about how you are a gift from God, and because of that, depending on how you "wrap yourself" people will see you differently.

             And because I am an ISTJ, I am the personality that most serious about rules. And I am getting to my point now. 

             If my gift wrapping paper is 4 layers (which is the same for every one), (fancy bow, wrapping paper, box, then the actual precious gift inside), then the big fancy bow that people see on me is too much of a rule follower, and a little bossy. Believe me, I am not bossy like you would imagine. 

 

           And so I start opening up to someone in a good conversation, and they get through my "big fancy bow", but don't want to go through anything else.

 

          And this is my problem. I have had trouble making friends, because they don't understand what the actual Gift is. Most people stereotype ISTJ's as people who are, I don't know, robotic and core too much for rules.

 

         And here is the catch now. Someone other than my family who has know me since I was born, would think, "She is just a stick-in-the-mud, she doesn't want to break a rule or two." When in real life, the whole reason that I make sure safety is to a T, is because, I REALLY care for others.

 

       In conclusion, peoples first glance at me is often "She is bossy, and cares to much for rules.". (And I am not bossy like a little kid, bossy like an over protective parent, if you know what I mean.) 

 

    But they never get to the real Gift inside, the person who cares for others in an unique way, making sure every one is safe.  And the whole reason they never get to the real, caring me, is because, it seems like every one I meet does not understand my thinking.

 

         The indent key wasn't working, so my indents were uneven.

 

 

         So now I am sure you are thinking, "How do people see me at first glance? Do they really want to know who I am?  

 

       Those are good questions! If you are thinking about the gift box thing, try and make sure that the "big fancy bow" is attractive, but doesn't give away to much, and the 'wrapping paper" is the next layer that gets people interested, in a good way. The "gift box" is more personal information, (unlike your name, which you often tell at the very beginning). And finally the real Gift, is the real you. And hopefully the person who has got this far, will remember and have you for ever.

 

      One more tip, don't make your wrapping and bow fancy, when the real gift, in my description of a person, does not care for people, and is rude to have people get through the fancy stuff, to find a person like this.

 

     And if you were wondering why I capitalized the g in gift, is because you are precious from God.

 

      Thank you if you got this far. It was pretty long, but I wanted to share my story, and share some advice for you guys.

Wow! Thats actually interesting.

Stereotypes suck :..(

 

I have that book too! I'm not old enough to take that quiz yet but I will this summer, I'll tell y'all which one I get!

I will take the quiz soon!

 

I was walking around the gym the other day in P.E with my friend (female) (we are always together) and one of the boys looked at us in front of the whole class and said, "Are you two married? Because you are always together!" And this boy has been mean to me before and like, I go to a christian school and that is not supposed to be mentioned so like :worried:  And we we're both so like, WHAT?! And so I said, "No, I'm not lesbian." Like any reasonable person would say. And this boy just kept going! Mentioning things to my friend and the other kids, and the worse part, MY TEACHER DIDN'T SAY A WORD! Like, seriously this boy just said something very inappropriate and unkind to my friend and I and he just continues on like the boy asked if the world was round! LIKE WHAT THE ACTUAL HECK!! Uggg. and this isn't the first time this teacher has been mean to me :undecided: . Remember a while back when I broke my toe? Well, I was on crutches and I went up to the teacher (male btw) and said, "Oh hey, I'm not gonna be in P.E because I broke my toe, just wanted to let you know!" and he said, over and over "No you didn't!" or "your faking!" :pullinghair:  and I was talking to his mum and he was sitting there and she asked what was wrong and I said that I had broken my toe and this "man" said, "No she didn't she's just faking." DEAD SERIOUS. And I just stood there like, "WHAT DO YOU WANT ME TO DO?! TAKE OFF MY CAST AND SHOW YOU? SPEND THOUSANDS OF DOLLARS TO GET AN X-RAY? WHAT THE ACTUAL-" :hissyfit: So I just ignored him, told my mom and went along. My friend and I still talk about it and we thinking about going to the principal but decided against it, this boy was just a jerk. And I had already been in trouble with the principal so we thought it better to keep it to ourselves.  But I still think about it and hope I had done more (Like slap coach with one of my crutches!).

Anyhoo, sorry for how long that was. :paperbag:

Oh gosh, that sounds annoying and mean! I'm so sorry! You should tell somebody you trust, because the teachers won't do anything!



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Posted 19 May 2022 - 05:42 AM

Wow! Thats actually interesting.

Stereotypes suck :..(

 

I will take the quiz soon!

 

Oh gosh, that sounds annoying and mean! I'm so sorry! You should tell somebody you trust, because the teachers won't do anything!

School ended last week!!


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Posted 19 May 2022 - 05:50 AM

    This is something I have been hiding for a few years now, but this thread made me feel better.

 

    This guy moved inn 2 or 3 years ago, and I had a crush on him. This is my one and only crush. For real, this is the only boy that I liked in that kind of way. He moved away now, but I don't think I could talk to him anyway. 

 

   I never had extreme feelings, I never cried over him, but, I don't know what to do. It is making me sick now, when I am trying to sleep, and my brain is like,

  "Would you rather think about your top 3 mistakes, or, think about the boy you are trying not to distract you but I will make you only think about him."

 

It is true, and, I am pretty sure the only time I see him is when we play Roblox together with my little brother and his little brother.

 

And so I don't know what to do, it is impossible to tell him my feelings, and I can't completely forget about him, (or else my brain will destroy my rest with my feelings for him). 

 

Because, if he is my first, and only crush, my brain probably is tricked that he is my, I don't know, you get what I mean?


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Posted 19 May 2022 - 01:28 PM

Ayo as a teen who indeed struggles a bit this is a cool thread.

Period cramps suck. I’ve spent so many days curled up in a ball like bro unfair.
Then the pad/tampon commercials are showing girls running and stuff. Bruh unfair expectations (although this time around I literally went for a run every day and cantered a horse lol)
Anyways uh then they have the audacity to have a LUXURY TAX on feminine products. That’s <oh no>.
No girl wants to have to pay tons of cash to bleed for a week in misery.

Then there’s the plethora of body image problems.
Goodness I struggle with that.
Ruins my day pretty often.
And even though I have a healthy BMI (20) I feel fat.


Then there’s boys.
I liked this one dude who’s out of my league
And then I found out his friend likes me. We’re talking heh

But seriously y’all just shoot ur shot.
Tbh I didn’t have feelings for this guy before or really notice him but now that I know he’s into me I kinda idk maybe like him a bit.

My one concern is next fall I’m starting at a new school where he isn’t gonna be.. but I guess we will still live in the same town.


Tbh things were bad with me for a while because my best friends of 9 years gaslit me and said horrible things about me..
I dropped them and things have slowly gotten better.
Right now things seem to be going good.

I made a good friend, I often hang out with another person at school (which isn’t exactly my friend- more of a good acquaintance that I talk to all the time about all sorts of stuff) and then the dude who likes me.

Teachers is a whole thing I don’t wanna get into because it’s awful and I don’t wanna explain it.



But yeah sometimes things suck and sometimes they don’t
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Posted 19 May 2022 - 09:19 PM

    This is something I have been hiding for a few years now, but this thread made me feel better.

 

    This guy moved inn 2 or 3 years ago, and I had a crush on him. This is my one and only crush. For real, this is the only boy that I liked in that kind of way. He moved away now, but I don't think I could talk to him anyway. 

 

   I never had extreme feelings, I never cried over him, but, I don't know what to do. It is making me sick now, when I am trying to sleep, and my brain is like,

  "Would you rather think about your top 3 mistakes, or, think about the boy you are trying not to distract you but I will make you only think about him."

 

It is true, and, I am pretty sure the only time I see him is when we play Roblox together with my little brother and his little brother.

 

And so I don't know what to do, it is impossible to tell him my feelings, and I can't completely forget about him, (or else my brain will destroy my rest with my feelings for him). 

 

Because, if he is my first, and only crush, my brain probably is tricked that he is my, I don't know, you get what I mean?

 

Do you want to one day tell him how you feel? Or are you nervous?

I get what you mean, when you have feelings for someone it is easy for your brain to make them bigger and bigger until your sitting there making wedding invitations and he doesn't even know that you like him (speaking from experience) 

And it's easily for your brain to think, "Oh, she's like, always thinkin' about this dude, HEY FEELINGS! CRANK IT UP!!!"

I find it easiest for me to sit back and think about how much I know about this person, maybe make a list of things you want in a man and if the boy isn't all of them, he isn't the one. For me, I set high expectations so that if a boy like that wonders into my life, I'll know he the one.

But then again, I'm not allowed to date until I'm 18 soooo....



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Posted 20 May 2022 - 01:45 AM

Do you want to one day tell him how you feel? Or are you nervous?

I get what you mean, when you have feelings for someone it is easy for your brain to make them bigger and bigger until your sitting there making wedding invitations and he doesn't even know that you like him (speaking from experience) 

And it's easily for your brain to think, "Oh, she's like, always thinkin' about this dude, HEY FEELINGS! CRANK IT UP!!!"

I find it easiest for me to sit back and think about how much I know about this person, maybe make a list of things you want in a man and if the boy isn't all of them, he isn't the one. For me, I set high expectations so that if a boy like that wonders into my life, I'll know he the one.

But then again, I'm not allowed to date until I'm 18 soooo....

Good tips :)

 

Ayo as a teen who indeed struggles a bit this is a cool thread.

Period cramps suck. I’ve spent so many days curled up in a ball like bro unfair.
Then the pad/tampon commercials are showing girls running and stuff. Bruh unfair expectations (although this time around I literally went for a run every day and cantered a horse lol)
Anyways uh then they have the audacity to have a LUXURY TAX on feminine products. That’s <oh no>.
No girl wants to have to pay tons of cash to bleed for a week in misery.

Then there’s the plethora of body image problems.
Goodness I struggle with that.
Ruins my day pretty often.
And even though I have a healthy BMI (20) I feel fat.


Then there’s boys.
I liked this one dude who’s out of my league
And then I found out his friend likes me. We’re talking heh

But seriously y’all just shoot ur shot.
Tbh I didn’t have feelings for this guy before or really notice him but now that I know he’s into me I kinda idk maybe like him a bit.

My one concern is next fall I’m starting at a new school where he isn’t gonna be.. but I guess we will still live in the same town.


Tbh things were bad with me for a while because my best friends of 9 years gaslit me and said horrible things about me..
I dropped them and things have slowly gotten better.
Right now things seem to be going good.

I made a good friend, I often hang out with another person at school (which isn’t exactly my friend- more of a good acquaintance that I talk to all the time about all sorts of stuff) and then the dude who likes me.

Teachers is a whole thing I don’t wanna get into because it’s awful and I don’t wanna explain it.



But yeah sometimes things suck and sometimes they don’t

I relateeee, hope stuff gets better <33

 

    This is something I have been hiding for a few years now, but this thread made me feel better.

 

    This guy moved inn 2 or 3 years ago, and I had a crush on him. This is my one and only crush. For real, this is the only boy that I liked in that kind of way. He moved away now, but I don't think I could talk to him anyway. 

 

   I never had extreme feelings, I never cried over him, but, I don't know what to do. It is making me sick now, when I am trying to sleep, and my brain is like,

  "Would you rather think about your top 3 mistakes, or, think about the boy you are trying not to distract you but I will make you only think about him."

 

It is true, and, I am pretty sure the only time I see him is when we play Roblox together with my little brother and his little brother.

 

And so I don't know what to do, it is impossible to tell him my feelings, and I can't completely forget about him, (or else my brain will destroy my rest with my feelings for him). 

 

Because, if he is my first, and only crush, my brain probably is tricked that he is my, I don't know, you get what I mean?

This sounds tough..

Since its making you sick, yeah, this is a big deal to you.

Is there anyway you can talk to him? The "sickness" won't go away, unless you sort it out.

 

School ended last week!!

Luckyyyyy thoughhhh


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